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Feeling Wheel
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Contessa:
I have to bring out the feeling wheel so you can see other words. It's like, oh wait a minute. That's what I'm feeling right there. And so that silence at that time is there so you can recognize what's going on with you.
Dr. Kimberly:
No, I like that. I'll have to check out that wheel. There was a tic talker who was talking about how people get on social media and we just tell everything now things that we would have kept to ourselves a long time ago or whatever. And I totally disagree with that. I don't think we get on Tik TOK or social media and tailor everything. I think we say a lot, but I don't think we reveal a lot because the things that really cause us shame, we still hold on to. But, and I think it's the same thing as like you know what you're saying? You're, you're getting a lot of conversation from this person. Now you're getting a lot of words. It's not conversation. You get a lot of words from this person, but nothing is actually being said there. And with parasocial relationships, basically pair of social relationships, being that the conversation is being curated. We think that we're close to someone because we hear, we hear them saying a lot of words, but they're not really saying anything. They're not really bridging the gaps that are in that relationship. The relationship can only go so far.
Contessa:
That reminds me of, I tell people all the time on social media, if I don't call you my friend, you're not my friend. Just because you see me on social media, just because we, Kiki ha does not mean that you know who I am on a deep level. Most of the things that I share out on social media is surfaced reliable.
Dr. Kimberly:
Yeah.
Contessa:
And what else I was going to say, I was going to say that people will tell me Contessa that we really don't know you. And I'm like, I'm an open book. I talk a lot. I feel like, no, no, no, no. We don't know who you are. You're still this great mystery. And I was like, and that's the way I like.
Dr.Kimberly:
That's right. That's right. There are a couple of comments here. So Audra St. Gaps are why I'm having a hard time picking a life path. I see too much and I'm skilled. So don't know in, in, I don't know if you've ever had any conversations with Audrey, but her mind is just like a fricking, I will say I'm trying to get away from the machine metaphor, but it's like this, this amazing vast ecosystem where she's just, it's, it's just so prolific. So full of life, just constantly generating thoughts. So I totally understand it. And as a person who functions very similarly Josh a narcissist want us to be placeholders in their jealous worldview. Okay. So she said continue to August though. So don't know what to focus on life is full of needs and concerns. Yes, it is. Right. there was an episode of the show I used to like is so goofy called the Highlander. It came on one of these generic channels, like the CW. And there was this pianist, this classical pianist. And she, so the show was about being immortal and she found out
Contessa:
And let everyone know that I did not hear pianist. I'm just going to put that there I'm like the show's about what I got. I got real interested. I was like, oh, and how big is it?
Dr. Kimberly:
Tik TOK is P I a N I S T P. And this pianist it still south. I know, I know I will stop. I'm just going to stop PNS P I a N I S T Tik TOK. Okay. No bear by day of lies. I mean, by D E in lipids. So this piano player, Classical piano player she realized that she was immortal. And so we think about time, we think about gaps. So one of the things about our mortality is it makes us think about time because it is in limited resource. And I don't know how the hell this relates and how I'm trying to tie the same, but I just want to share this. But when she realized she was immortal, her talent went away. Like she couldn't play anymore because she had an infinite amount of time. I know, like it means something,
Contessa:
It does pretty, I need time to process
Dr. Kimberly:
And I see this, I throw stuff at the end, you know, just starting stuff. I was in my twenties when I watched it and I knew this day would come.
Contessa:
Right. And so this is where I'm going to throw out a question to everyone who's listening. What kind of thoughts into your mind, how did you feel when Dr. Kimberly said that when you had an infinite amount of time, your talents, your skills go away, they're wasted. They're no longer exist. Ah, I, I I'm, I'm gonna come back to that.